Happy Monday and happy first of the month! Can’t believe it’s June already and that we’re halfway through the year!
Is it better to be real which will please less people and give you less of a social circle or is better to be fake and have abundance of friends?
If you asked me this a year ago my answer would be to be 100% real 100% of the time. Today, however, I’m thinking about things a little differently.
People will respect you when you keep it real. They might not love and adore you, but they’ll respect you. When you’re fake, you’re pleasing a bunch of people who will love you because you’re serving them what they want, and giving them a piece of themselves.
Where does one draw the line between realness and fakeness? PS -Is fakeness even a word? Doubtful.
When you are who you truly are, you attract the right people. When you are someone you’re not, you’re going to attract that exact type of person. It’s fun to have a huge social circle and be a pseudo socialite, making it easier for me to understand why people act the way they do to appease their surroundings.
But you know what else is fun? Not having to pretend to be someone you’re not and living your life as your true authentic self everyday. Not having to worry about what anyone thinks of you because you know that at the end of the day, you are who you are and no one can take that from you.
Some scenarios where I think it’s appropriate to throw a little fakeness out there: giving a smile and saying hi to a mutual friend you don’t like, making conversation with someone you don’t have much in common with at an event or masking your bad mood at a social gathering. I don’t even consider these things to be fake, just courteous and polite. These are just 3 examples, but you can catch my drift on this one.
What about you? When do you think it’s appropriate to be fake, if at all?