No one wants to ever talk about the job they didn’t get or the number of rejections they had to go through until they were able to build their empire. But today, I am putting myself and everyone else on full blast so listen up!
Behind every successful person you see, there’s at least a few rejections. It’s part of the process, plain and simple. It’s easy to to let social media fool you into thinking that someone lives this glam life without any hard work, but most of the time, there’s a lot that goes into that Instagram worthy life someone is living. No one, including me, wants to admit they’ve been turned down 10x before they found a fit for them – but that doesn’t help anyone going through the same thing.
So as the song goes: let’s just be honest, let’s just be real…
I’ll tell you a recent story in hopes you’ll pay it forward and share yours. Let’s connect and maybe through this, inspire people to not just start talking but begin helping one another through encouragement. 2 weeks ago I went in for an audition for what I thought was THE job of my dreams. I had been following the company for quite some time, and when they approached me to come in, I thought this was my big moment – the opportunity that would put me over the hill and on my way to doing something really amazing. Everything about this job was perfect and right up my alley. I walked in with the attitude that I would go in, kill it, and get the job. While I am no stranger to rejection, I usually find a way to get what I want.
The entire week before the audition I prayed like I had never prayed before to get this gig. I was daydreaming about the things I would get to do. I brainstormed cool ideas. Everything that you could possibly think of, I did. I believe in the power of positivity, so I told myself 5x a day (no joke) that I would get this job. It’s been a long time since I have wanted something this bad.
I went in there a ball of nerves, did what I could, and left. The rest was no longer up to me. But it doesn’t mean I wasn’t checking my phone every single second to see if I got it. A week later, the answer came: I didn’t get the job. They told me I was great and that they were impressed with my experience, but I just wasn’t what they were looking for at this time. I was devastated. Actually, devastated doesn’t even begin to cut it. I sat in my car and cried – also a first for me. I cried for a good 20 minutes and when I was done I promised myself I would wipe my tears and get right back up. I told myself it was okay to be upset for the day, but that when I woke up the next morning, there was no more dwelling.
I went to dinner with our former Woman on the Rise, Melissa Purner, that night and she made a great point:
If you didn’t get the job, then it wasn’t the perfect job for you. If it was a perfect fit, you would have gotten it. It’s just like when you think you’ve found the perfect man but he can’t commit – in reality, he wasn’t the perfect guy, because if he was, he would have committed to you. So now you will continue to work hard and go after your dreams, and when it’s meant to be, the real perfect job will be yours. You never know what the universe has planned for you.
MPurn could not have hit the nail more on the head with that one.
Then I realized how many of my friends are in the same exact situation: job searching, endless interviewing, etc. It’s hard out here. Most people do not have it easy; they have to put in the work, face a million no’s just to maybe hear 1 yes.
“It takes years to become an overnight success.”
People who have amazing careers oftentimes had to climb a lot of mountains to get there. I hope that if you’re one of those people who just assumes that life is easy for some or that they are just “lucky”, you think again. And if you’re on the job hunt, remember that if you don’t get the job, you have to keep that head up and keep going, because you never know where you will end up.
The harder you work, the luckier you will get.