Hi loves! Happy freaking Monday! Can you believe July is basically over, which means summer is almost done?! I can’t. It’s been quite the summer and I don’t know about you, but I feel like I’m just now starting to enjoy it.
It wouldn’t be Monday without some MORAvation and for this week I wanted to touch on something that I feel we all do: protect our hearts. What a fragile and frail little bitch, isn’t it?
As we go through the motions of love and loss, it’s not always easy to let your heart run free. At least it’s not for me. So what do we do? We protect ourselves from any hurt, pain, or rejection we may face. And that’s totally normal – it’s one of our defense mechanisms as human beings.
Personally, I’m terrified of rejection. I’m actually so scared of breaking down the Great Wall of China I’ve built around my heart, only to see it get crushed into a million pieces. When I expressed this with some friends earlier, they told me they too had the same concerns. Now here we are, and after a lot of thinking about what to say, I think I’ve got some things we can discuss today.
Why is it so hard for us to be vulnerable with one another? Why is it that so many of us feel the need to protect ourselves from heartbreak, rejection, and disappointment? So much so that we end up doing the complete opposite, never letting someone enter our hearts or our souls.
The truth of the matter is, we all have certain guards up. I don’t know one person who doesn’t at least have a small fence up. But it’s only when you can try and push past it, that you can grow. The more you grow, the easier it is to hop over the fence.
I just turned 25 and it seems as though everyone around me is boo’d up or getting wife’d up, and I can’t even wrap my head around how to let someone see the real and softer side of me. I’m a tough person to crack, but once you peel back the layers, you’ll see I’m a ball of mush and sensitivity. GAG. I mean…this whole thing is kind of crazy if you think about it. Which I have been doing. Probably too much, actually. Anyways, as I was contemplating my so-called life, it suddenly became clear:
[highlight]In order to get something you’ve never had, you have to do something you’ve never done. If you continue to do the same damn thing, your results are going to be the same every single time.[/highlight]
I’ve also learned that it’s not someone else’s responsibly to tough it out and peel back YOUR layers. It’s yours. The only person that can show themselves and who they really are, is you. Kind of scary and empowering all at the same time.
You’ll never grow and learn about yourself until you slowly break down your own walls. To be honest, I’m not sure if I know exactly how to break down my own but I’m definitely trying and it makes me so freaking nervous that I end up just yapping away at the most inappropriate times! I thought my nervous giggle was bad, but this is so much worse. What I do know, however, is that you have to put in work. You have to work on yourself in order to take you to new levels. Take yourself higher and get on a different frequency level.
Who knows, maybe you’ll allow yourself to fall in love and there will be no more need to protect your heart because someone is keeping it safe.
xo [typography font=”Cantarell” size=”16″ size_format=”px” color=”#ff6666″]NM[/typography]