A month ago, after listening to Oprah’s SuperSoul Conversation with Shonda Rhimes, I decided I was going to start coming from a place of yes. Just like my girl Shonda!
It was while listening to Shonda explain how she would automatically say “no” before even thinking about saying yes, I questioned how many times in the past few years I have done the same.
No, I can’t make it for dinner. No, I don’t want to go on a date with him. No, I can’t go on vacation. No, I need to work.
I realized this, as I was taking my first vacation for myself in FOUR years, that it’s only when I’m away from the realities of life that I start to say yes. No inhibitions, no stress, and nothing to lose. London has a funny way of always pushing me to find myself on a deeper level, and this trip was no exception.
My self-proclaimed 30-Day-Place-Of-YES challenge began in London and followed me from Spain back to Los Angeles. I promised myself I would only use my “no” card if I had already made previous plans or had some kind of really good excuse (i.e: sick with a fever).
People often assume that you’re in a deep depression when you start forcing yourself to say yes. Was I depressed? No. I was honestly just burned out from the constant insomnia, long hours working, and stress.
I was saying yes to everyone except for the person that really mattered: ME.
30 days have officially come and gone. I feel like I’ve found the girl I used to know again. I came back to LA and started doing things I would have never said yes to, which in turn, made me more carefree. The things I would have said no to a month ago are the times where I ended up having the most fun. Crazy how that works.
This challenge has changed the way I see things and has made me feel a little less guilty for putting myself first. My happiness should come first. The world won’t stop moving if I shut my computer down, leave a message unanswered, or take a vacation to unwind. People are capable are figuring things out without my help. Who knew?
It takes 30 days to break a habit and 90 days to create a lifestyle. I have 60 more days to go and so far, so.freaking.good.