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My 30 Day Place Of YES Challenge

My 30 Day Place Of YES Challenge

A month ago, after listening to Oprah’s SuperSoul Conversation with Shonda Rhimes, I decided I was going to start coming from a place of yes. Just like my girl Shonda!

It was while listening to Shonda explain how she would automatically say “no” before even thinking about saying yes, I questioned how many times in the past few years I have done the same.

No, I can’t make it for dinner. No, I don’t want to go on a date with him. No, I can’t go on vacation. No, I need to work. 

I realized this, as I was taking my first vacation for myself in FOUR years, that it’s only when I’m away from the realities of life that I start to say yes. No inhibitions, no stress, and nothing to lose. London has a funny way of always pushing me to find myself on a deeper level, and this trip was no exception.

My self-proclaimed 30-Day-Place-Of-YES challenge began in London and followed me from Spain back to Los Angeles. I promised myself I would only use my “no” card if I had already made previous plans or had some kind of really good excuse (i.e: sick with a fever). 

People often assume that you’re in a deep depression when you start forcing yourself to say yes. Was I depressed? No. I was honestly just burned out from the constant insomnia, long hours working, and stress. 

I was saying yes to everyone except for the person that really mattered: ME. 

30 days have officially come and gone. I feel like I’ve found the girl I used to know again. I came back to LA and started doing things I would have never said yes to, which in turn, made me more carefree. The things I would have said no to a month ago are the times where I ended up having the most fun. Crazy how that works. 

This challenge has changed the way I see things and has made me feel a little less guilty for putting myself first. My happiness should come first. The world won’t stop moving if I shut my computer down, leave a message unanswered, or take a vacation to unwind. People are capable are figuring things out without my help. Who knew?

It takes 30 days to break a habit and 90 days to create a lifestyle. I have 60 more days to go and so far, so.freaking.good.

xo NM

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  • Jess Pacheco says:

    Hi Nic, saying yes has a power to it and knowing, of course, when to say no is also very important and balancing. I have been in a similar spot – saying no to make others happy and as a result neglecting my inner callings. I have learned hard from that bout and snapped back to my carefree and happy go lucky self again for which I am utterly grateful. The lessons we learn via the process of the ying and the yang. Thanks for sharing! ✌️ from KTown, LA
    Jess || https://www.learningfromstrangers.com

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