Be The Whole Cake: Find Your Ingredients (Or Lack Of)

Be The Whole Cake: Find Your Ingredients (Or Lack Of)

If you’ve clicked onto this post because you thought this was going to be an amazing cake recipe, I’m sorry to disappoint you.

However, we are talking about recipes tonight – just not in the literal term.

There’s one major recipe we tend to forget to perfect and pay attention to and that’s ourselves.

I’m always going to keep it real with you, so I have to tell you that I’ve had a very rough 2 weeks. There’s a lot of pressure to push my career and have the rest of my personal life fall into place. It’s not always easy being a young woman and I’m feeling the heat without even being in the kitchen!

What I’ve learned recently is that maybe we aren’t all as confident with ourselves as we put out to be. It wasn’t until I was put in a situation where I woke up to realize wow, if I had any type of self worth or love for myself, I wouldn’t be here. 

While I was experiencing this little bit of turmoil, I was speaking with my friend Jessica about life and personal relationships and she spit the best piece of wisdom my way that I just had to share with you:

You need to think of yourself as a whole cake. Anyone who comes into your life is just the frosting. But you, without the frosting, you’re still a whole cake. And you taste damn good. If someone is not adding that sweet flavor, you don’t allow them on your cake. The point is that you are perfect and just as good with or without the frosting. Don’t ever look for people to be the ingredients in your cake because if they leave, you won’t be whole. 


Mind.Blown.Hello to an AHA moment as Oprah calls it.

I mean, is that not the best analogy you’ve ever heard?! I can’t take credit for this as it was all Jess, but man, did this speak to me. 

I had been hearing the phrase “know your worth” for so damn long that it no longer held any weight to me.

I thought I had worth. I thought I had confidence. 

I’m aware that I come off as really confident, but the reality is that I am not. I’m just like everyone else; I worry about what people think, I have tons of self-doubt, and lately, I’ve been feeling like I need to prove that I’m worthy of great things. It’s not a great feeling, let me tell ya.

The best ingredient you can cook with is love and I was giving everyone else enough love for their freaking cakes that I forgot to put it in my own! My cake was also missing the entire serving of sugar because I have not been that nice to myself these days.

So technically, if you were to “bake” me, I would appear whole. But if you actually bit into me, you would not think it was a proper cake. 


For some people, they need to find the eggs or flour – they need to find the core of who they are. And for some of us, we need some sugar. Everyone is different and everyone’s journey is different, but I hope that you learn to to find what you’re lacking (if you are lacking) and put it into your recipe. 

In the meantime, I’m working on perfecting my cake so I can have it and eat it, too.

All my love.

xo NM

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Comments (2)

  • Gitana says:

    One of the best posts I’ve read in a while about how to better ourselves. 🙂 I love the cake reference. It’s actually pretty damn perfect.

    Good post! And try not to stress gurl. 😀

    • Nic Mora says:

      Wow, thank you so much! I love your blog! Following you on Insta now 🙂 So happy you liked this post xx

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