Being an adult doesn’t automatically mean you’re independent- and even if you’re in your twenties, thirties or beyond, you might be relying on others as a crutch more than you think. Recognising this, and taking steps to gain independence is so good for your mental health, it builds confidence and shows you that you can do whatever you put your mind to. We all need a support system with friends and family around us, but we shouldn’t be relying on these people to fulfil our needs, we need to be able to take care of many things in our lives by ourselves. Here’s how you can start being more independent.
Learn to drive
Being able to drive gives you so much independence, you can go where you want, when you want. No waiting on unreliable public transport and being stuck during the times it doesn’t run, or having to beg friends and family for lifts. It can be daunting at first, after a few lessons you might find yourself wondering if you’re ever going to be able to master the skill. But stick with it and you’ll get there, get yourself a little car and enjoy your new found freedom. Any car accident lawyer will tell you that things can and do happen on the roads, but don’t let it put you off. Stick to what you were taught and keep your wits about you and you’ll stay safe when driving.
Living alone is a fantastic way to gain some independence as it forces you to stand on your own two feet. You’ll be paying your own bills, cooking for yourself, cleaning and doing your own laundry. You’ll be creating your own schedule, with no one else telling you or influencing you what to do which can help you figure out who you are. Everyone should aim to live alone in life at least once, so if you have the opportunity to do this then grab it with both hands.
Just like living alone, traveling alone forces you to stand on your own two feet. Learning to navigate a foreign country where you don’t understand the language or the way things work can be daunting, but incredibly satisfying to work out. With Google at your fingertips and plenty of research before you go you’ll be fine, trust your intelligence. When you return home you’ll feel like if you can conquer your time abroad, you can do anything over here. It can build a whole lot of confidence.
Develop your own hobbies
Being independent means creating a life of your own, so exploring your own interests. You don’t always need a friend, partner or parent to hold your hand, do some research and find classes, clubs and other activities relating to things that you personally enjoy. From sports to art groups to bakery classes, it’s a fun way to spend your spare time and going to your activities each week is something that’s just for you.