Congratulations! Not only is one of your closest friends or family members getting married, but she cares so much about you that she chose you to take part in her inner circle. It’s official – you are a bridesmaid. So…now what?
Begin Handling the Logistics of Becoming a Bridesmaid
If you do not already have it, your friend will soon give you a wedding date and location. Confirm that you’re available, and if anything goes wrong to prevent you from being there, let her know as soon as possible. It is an awful lot harder to change plans close to the wedding date, so be courteous and keep her informed.
Contact other Attendants to Determine Roles
Usually, even small weddings have more than one bridesmaid – necessary for the picturesque line of women in pretty bridesmaid dresses! Get in touch with your fellow bridal party members and find out if there are any engagement parties, bridal showers, or bachelorette parties planned. It is customary to share some of the costs and responsibilities of these events, so get clear now on what others are expecting of you.
Get the Lowdown on the Dresses
Find out if you need to provide measurements for those bridesmaid dresses, or if you are responsible for shopping on your own. Is there a color, fabric, or style that you need to buy, or will you choose from a variety of options? Ask for guidelines for shoes, accessories, and hair and makeup. If necessary, make appointments for the latter services.
The Bridal Shower and Bachelorette Party
One of your key roles as a bridesmaid is to organize the bridal shower and bachelorette party. Look for something that everyone will enjoy – a luxurious and relaxing spa day, perhaps, or a wild night out using your XS Nightclub passes. Whatever you choose, make it a night/week to remember!
The Wedding Day
Arrive on time with everything necessary for the day in hand. Either get your hair and makeup done before you arrive or pay close attention to the schedule and be where you are needed at your appointed time. Help the bride get into her gown and make sure she stays cool, calm, and comfortable until the big moment arrives.
During the photographs, you may have the role of going and hunting down family members for their photos and helping the bride touch up her makeup and hair.
One role of wedding attendants is to act as social liaisons – help guests feel comfortable by being friendly and enjoying the festivities yourself. Offer a hand to the couple throughout the night if needed. Make sure you act responsibly and safely, so do not get too drunk, and if required, take advantage of safe transportation home.
A bridesmaid does so much more than just stand up and look pretty. Start working on your responsibilities early, and you will earn your place among the best bridesmaids ever!