Doomsday prophets, or as you more likely refer to them: tabloid newspapers and magazines, have been telling us for years that millennials, the Dementors of Boomer Industries, have been killing everything from strip clubs to paper napkins, to marriage. How dare they.
Without getting into why these industries are supposedly on their last legs, it’s important to remember that it’s not the end of the world. Millennials and Gen Yers can still enjoy all the magic of such industries. They just want to do it in their way.
Weddings, in particular, are a massive expense, and many couples postpone it as long as possible simply because they don’t have the funds. If you’re desperate to get married (even if only to silence nagging parents, siblings, and society), you can still have the best day ever without going broke. Here’s how to do it.
Save The Sparkly Stuff
They say that the proposer should pay three months’ salary on an engagement ring. However, with most people living paycheck to paycheck, with bills to pay, with unforeseen expenses to cover, it could take years to save up the cash.
Many couples have taken to making a promise, proposing, but without a ring (or at least without the real ring) until it is more affordable. When that time comes, feel free to surprise your bride with a fine Tacori piece a little further down the line once you – and the party dust – has settled following your big day.
Do It All Yourself
DIY weddings are a fantastic way to not only save money but make it a day that is entirely you. Wedding planners serve their purpose, sure, and they’re suitable for those looking for a more traditional wedding day. However, going it alone and organizing everything from the venue to the refreshments to the entertainment can make it more special for everybody.
If possible, check with friends and relatives if they can contribute to certain aspects of the wedding, such as a location, music, and even food. You’ll still need to pay them for the service (even if they tell you they don’t want your money), but it’ll always be cheaper than going a more traditional route.
Consider Your Nearest and Dearest
Big blow out weddings are great. You get to bring all your family and friends, and you get to see people you’ve not seen since you were knee-high. But more guests means more money, and who can afford to feed 200+ people?
While it would be nice to get everybody together, it’s often not viable. Instead, you can consider those closest to you and have a smaller, more modest wedding. You’ll invite those who are the most special to you to ensure it’s just as you want.
But Also Remember It’s Your Day
Only inviting a select few people may upset some who were left off the list, but you shouldn’t bend over backward to appease everybody. Doing this can avalanche into something overwhelming, and with every allowance, the day becomes a little less yours and more like something other people have envisioned for you. Your wedding day should be about you and your partner and don’t allow anyone to disrupt that.
If supposed snubs are a real issue, you can always invite people to the after-party (if there’s space) to get them involved in the day, and if they don’t like it, well, that’s on them.
Presents and The Incorrect
Sure, gifts are lovely, but as attitudes shift away from material things and instead towards experiences, more and more couples are happy to take cash over gifts.
This is because once upon a time, marriage meant the couple would be living together for the first time and needed waffle irons, cutlery sets, bedsheets, and other supposed essentials for their new home. But with more couples living in sin than ever before – both out of desire and necessity – the need for this has vanished.
Instead, accepting monetary gifts can help fund honeymoons, mortgage payments, and new cars. You know, everything that’s more important than yet another throw pillow. The money eases the pressure on the finances and helps you do what you want.
You’ve Got Your Whole Life Ahead Of You
A wedding day is just that: a day. While your forebears were happy to spend a year’s paycheck on one event to bring the family together and celebrate the love they share, sensible people understand that’s no longer possible.
You’ve got the rest of your life to prove how much you love one another, and you don’t need to go broke doing it. Instead, save that money to build the best life together.