When you’re starting from the bottom and working your way to the top, you don’t think that the things and people around you will change; people are supporting you and are your biggest fans; everyone wants you to win.
Until they aren’t your biggest fans and don’t want you to win.
I’ve always wanted to make something of myself – to show people that as a woman, you can do it too. I love to win and I’ll be damned if I let myself fail. But hold up. This doesn’t settle well with people.
In the beginning, everyone was my #1 fan. It’s no surprise to anyone that I’ve always worked my freaking ass off trying to make my dreams come true. And I quite literally started from the bottom; I mopped the bathroom floors at my theatre, I sewed up costumes in between classes (or even in class), ushered people to their seats, you name it. When I was being someone’s bitch, everyone cheered for me from the sidelines. But once I started movin’ on up, the crowds got less and less. Where were my cheerleaders at? Missing in action.
Did you really think success brings you more friends? Ha. Maybe it brings you the moochers and the stealers, but it doesn’t bring you more REAL friends. You know, the kind that you can call when you have a mental breakdown? Yeah, sorry it doesn’t happen.
So here’s the thing, the reason why strangers will support you before people in your circles do – brought to you by my quote of the day on Instagram:
[quote]You know why strangers support you more than people you know? ‘Cause people that know you have a tough time accepting you from the same place, but they are still in the same place.[/quote]
Can I get an AMEN!
I’ve worked hard for everything I have. Nobody handed anything over to me. I’ve invested my own money, my time and opened up myself to be vulnerable to the whole world. I think people conveniently forget that. They see the product or the results, but they don’t see the hard work that goes into it every single day. And so, they sit and wonder, ‘why am I not getting there?’ or ‘why does this person get to make it and I don’t?’
The truth of the matter is, the world is at your fingertips. Results come with sacrifice. Remember when I sat in the TV studio until midnight throughout my last year in college instead of going out and raging all night? Or how about the girl in your class who started her own PR company that worked 3 internships simultaneously to learn the ins and outs of the business? Now she’s a boss. Or maybe the guy in your class who had a brilliant idea and spent sleepless nights coming up with a business plan to make it come to life with the help of his professors? Now he’s the face of one of the biggest up and coming startup companies.
As a woman, it’s hard. I’m not going to lie. It’s sometimes so hard that it makes me want to just throw my hands up and surrender. What do I do? Do I make sacrifices for a relationship? Or do I go out and make my dreams happen? How can a young woman truly have it all?
[typography font=”Cantarell” size=”15″ size_format=”px” color=”#ff6666″]Balance. Organization. Priorities. A good support system.[/typography]
When you learn to balance, everything else falls into place. When you’re organized, you have a plan to put into motion. When you figure out what really matters vs what doesn’t, you can make better decisions. And you set yourself up with an inner circle that will love you through every single up and down of life – no exceptions.
Instead of being upset and jealous that you’re not where you want to be, make a change. Set up a plan of action. Ask for help. Put your ego aside and live your life instead of resenting people who are trying to live theirs. It’s not fair. Look at me, I sound like a 2-year-old saying ‘it’s not fair!’ — but it’s really not.
Never apologize for what you have, because no one knows what it took to get there. Actually wait, that’s not true. I’ve had people see what I’ve gone through and still not support me. That’s okay.
Let me tell you why.
[highlight]Because whether or not you support me – whether or not you support anyone who is just trying to make something out of their lives – the bus is still going to keep on going. [/highlight]Feel free to hop off whenever it gets to be too much for you. Or stay on for the ride and see where the final destination is. But whether you’re on it or not, the bus WILL reach that final destination.
Keep your inner circles small & your private life private. The toxic energy out & the good energy in. But most of all, just keep loving. Love those that wish you well and those that don’t. After all, the ones that don’t wish you well are most likely the ones that need the most love.
xo [typography font=”Cantarell” size=”15″ size_format=”px” color=”#ff6666″]NM[/typography]